tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post5945554206424292876..comments2023-08-08T06:35:09.182-04:00Comments on Carolyn R Parsons, Author: Compassion; The DefaultCarolyn R. Parsonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14529999558075983828noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-19710986161408057182009-05-18T13:24:00.000-04:002009-05-18T13:24:00.000-04:00Breeze, this is yet another awesome, inspiring pos...Breeze, this is yet another awesome, inspiring post. It is so interesting how the "fixers" of the world want to jump into every situation and mend things. You are so right in pointing out the importance of determining the level of help that the receiver needs - sometimes, just having someone to sit with you and share a cup of tea is enought. Other times,we do need advice. I love the example that you gave - as friends, we often make mistakes - we want to ease anothers pain, but sometimes end up inflicting more than we take away. Beautiful reminder.<br />xoxoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-50782987892065327792009-05-18T12:06:00.000-04:002009-05-18T12:06:00.000-04:00Breeze...
Thank you for sharing this soulful exch...Breeze...<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this soulful exchange between you and your friend. I hope that whatever happens with Jane and Martha, they have peace in the outcome. I can think of many moments when unsolicited advice made a situation worse, but not one time did a quiet hug, or sympathetic ear do any harm...<br /><br />Much love to you!Camhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07972079738846934736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-14022602684474743652009-05-16T18:43:00.000-04:002009-05-16T18:43:00.000-04:00nice blog.nice blog.Lluviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15372624951209457246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-86534156734476224842009-05-15T14:08:00.000-04:002009-05-15T14:08:00.000-04:00You captured it so beautifully!
I never told you ...You captured it so beautifully!<br /><br />I never told you about my father's blog....<br /><br />http://myheartfeltmusings.blogspot.com/<br /><br /><br />check it out sometime....he has written some good real life stories there.....Reveda Prisha Umankshi Bhatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419352488794839539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-27077700980561990112009-05-15T09:49:00.000-04:002009-05-15T09:49:00.000-04:00Wow Breeze what a wonderful post!! I think you nai...Wow Breeze what a wonderful post!! I think you nailed this one. You have to take care when caring for others. There are so many belief systems now - some very different! Years ago I had a very close friend who lost a child. I went to her home as soon as I heard and was told by family to wait a week and come by again. I should have listened to my heart and come by again the next day, left a note, something to let her know I was there for her. She was not told I had stopped by and when I came by a week later - she let fly at me - at least she was honest - but she thought I had not cared enough to come by and was deeply hurt. <br />I agree - always ask and be an ear!<br />Namaste, SarahSarah Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03835112406617937224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-30448253088647080412009-05-15T09:40:00.000-04:002009-05-15T09:40:00.000-04:00you have described the difference perfectly. i too...you have described the difference perfectly. i too have a friend who does the advice bit. so much so that she follows up on what i've actually done about it, the next time i see her. and that just doesn't work for me. the difference is quite subtle. but it makes a huge difference. no-one is ready to do something, until they are ready in their own time. many people forget that and push. and that when compassion flies out the window. 'how may i help' is the perfect question to ask. that way you'll give what is needed. great post breeze!Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-62209382849023380922009-05-15T09:14:00.000-04:002009-05-15T09:14:00.000-04:00Breeze,
Your wisdom is pokin' thru agin' Darlin'.....Breeze,<br />Your wisdom is pokin' thru agin' Darlin'.........Many of us are complicit in offering too much of one and not enough of the other. A study of the self can bring to light much of what we think is compassion...as really just our own co-dependency with being needed. The saying about finger pointing carries well in soft ways as it does in harsh. There's ALL-WAYS three pointing back.<br />It is hard at times to discern whether or not folks want advice or just an ear....usually just an ear. It can be equally difficult to recognize through the jumbles of emotional goo when pride, and pride covers an awful big spectrum, is interfering with the ability to offer gentle or stern council to repetetive behavior. We are all such sensitive children when it comes down to it. Her friend Jane truly cares in her willingness to offer constant physical support even though Martha recognizes it as misaligned. In that situation I would ask myself, were it I,what it is that draws one to the other....for even in the partiality of acceptance there is a deeper understanding of the self, available, by looking. One of the classic old ways men learn to respect each other's space is by silently standing with the friend and offering only a silent shoulder to lean on. This traditional male attitude causes great friction between the sexes at times because of the different ways men and women offer support.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687020216039527521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2076932166540355726.post-7813643179893069742009-05-15T09:04:00.000-04:002009-05-15T09:04:00.000-04:00Good Friday!
Just wanted to let you know that you...Good Friday!<br /><br />Just wanted to let you know that you've won the book give-away over at my blog.<br /><br />Please send me an address, so I can mail it to you.<br /><br />My email is: razn6@netzero.net<br /><br />Congrats!<br />Sonya LeeSonya Lee Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10784256044418169518noreply@blogger.com