Connections; Just an Observation
Almost every night I write for a couple of hours and then to unwind I go You Tubin'. For me this means I start with a song I want to hear, usually something older, and one song leads to another and so on. Last night I started with Lennie Kravitz and then somehow Billie Idol, Prince, ACDC, Def Leppard, Guns and Roses and then Bon Jovi. Now some of the music is connected, you can see the path. They are the same kind of music but when you look at where I started and where I end up, well there doesn't seem to be a whole lot in common. Lenny Kravitz sings an entirely different kind of music from ACDC or Bon Jovi for example. Mostly though I follow instinctively, one song leads to a memory which leads to a related memory and triggers another song. It is a truly enjoyable way to relax and remember really positive moments in your life.
I live with analogies in my writing world, I see them frequently in my real life and this made me think about the connections we have as human beings with each other. I know, sounds like a bit of a stretch but it's what came to me as I noticed the path I was taking as I went from video to video and noting the connections I had to the music I played, how certain songs reminded me of places, people, events etc. We make connections between songs and people that seem random and we make connections with people that also seem random and inexplicable.
I'm not necessarily talking about a traditional love connection, though it could be that, just a deep knowing that this person is meant to be in your life and that their role is important. Sometimes they stay, sometimes they don't but the connection seems to remain no matter the outcome. They are immediate. They are profound. And yes, as I said, they are seemingly random.
The book I've written, The Secrets of Rare Moon Tickle, the one that is coming out in June explores one such connection between the two main characters who can't seem to make sense of it no matter how hard they try, and it affects their entire lives, sometimes for the better, sometimes not. This is the major theme of the book and of course, you bring yourself to your work, so it is somewhat my own exploration of my thoughts on this topic through the characters in the book.
Sometimes the reason for the connection is obvious. They are your relative, your parent, your seat mate on the bus in kindergarten. Geography makes it easy. But sometimes you find it in the most unusual place and you can't see any reason why you should feel connected to this human being, yet suddenly, you are. It's an odd thing.
One of the lines from the book goes "? What if all of our lives are predetermined in the heavens and we simply get to live in the details. What if the stars, the moon, and the sun all shine in perfect rhythm with our lives, counting our days, watching our nights, determining our every step though we count it as accidental? What if there are no coincidences?"
If this is the case, what do we do? How do we know where to take our friendships, when to leave them behind because they are no longer what we need.
Maybe the best thing we can do, as in all things, is to follow our instincts, love where we can and leave the rest up to fate and not worry too much about outcome. We need to synchronize our lives a little, bring things together, accept the oddities and the gifts we are given and stop analyzing the people we are blessed to connect with throughout this tiny earth-journey we make.
Then eventually, in the words of Jackson Browne, "Let creation reveal its secrets by and by..."